OhioHealth Medical Minute: Dealing With Loss During Holidays

Holiday time is such a precious time for families. But when you experience a loss, holiday time can be very difficult.  Many times, those holidays that are usually filled with joy and laughter have a tremendous hole.  Experts who manage bereavement services at OhioHealth say that pushing through the holidays after a loss can be difficult from day to day, even hour to hour.

"It's hard to be in a world where everyone has that expectation of being happy and joyous.  For someone who has experienced loss, it is very normal to not feel like yourself during these celebrations.  The expectations of being happy during this time of the year can be frustrating," Pamela Gompf, manager of Bereavement Services for OhioHealth Home Care said.

It can also be frustrating for friends that see someone struggling, and not knowing exactly what to do to lend support. Gompf says patience is the real key, along with understanding.

"They might not be able to focus on family events, so as a friend, you need to be extra patient with them.  Be a friend, be there to listen, and offer support," Gompf said.

So what can you do if you are someone who is dealing with loss?  Gompf says it is important for the person dealing with the loss to give themselves a break, and options.

"Know your limits, and be sure you are taking care of yourself. It's okay not to be as involved as you normally would, but if you want to participate, then give yourself an escape plan. Drive yourself, so when you want to leave, you can. And again, take good care of yourself, eat well, get good rest," Gompf said.

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